“Hey. Hey. Welcome to 2005!”
That was one of the first messages I got after I set up a Facebook page.
Yeah, yeah, I had that coming.
If you read my last blog post, you probably saw the “news” that I decided to get a personal Facebook account.
While me getting on Facebook is assuredly not the most exciting news you’ll get all year, it was a big deal for me. I have been resisting this for years, adamantly resisting, this which I viewed as a total waste of time, this wildly popular social media platform that the entire universe seems to be stuck on… I am coming around to understanding it’s merits.
Let’s face it…I’m not cool.
I don’t dance (big thanks to my wife for capturing and posting my attempt at Zumba), I have no idea what’s happening in the news, who sings what song, or what TV shows or movies are playing (much less who is in them). I tried to take my wife to a nice restaurant once wearing cargo pants (the pockets are very useful, okay!). I hate shopping and never buy anything new for myself. I’ve lost track of how many times I’ve been teased for wearing “the same red swimsuit every year” or “same red shirt at Christmas.”
And I score the most “not cool” points for this
I’m the weird guy who has never met an alcoholic drink I can’t walk away from. Want to go out for a drink? Sure, but I’ll have water. Yeah, I’m “that guy” who makes you feel uncomfortable because you have a glass of whatever-on-the-rocks—by the way, no, I’m not judging you. Really.
To help you appreciate my plight, picture yourself in a room full of water drinkers and you’re the only person with a large glass of wine. You’re happy, it’s good wine, but everyone walks up to you and says “What do you have there?” and “You know, it wouldn’t kill you to have some water…”
To compound my un-coolness, I get the extra pleasure of making the cool people feel uncomfortable in social situations. This is the most un-cool feeling for me, but not worth me suffering my way through a $13 mixed drink of throat burning booze.
What does this have to do with me getting on Facebook?
Facebook seems to be a platform where we get to show up at the party of life with no drink in our hands-so to speak. While there are things I don't like, where Facebook strikes me as good is because it's a platform where we can share our ideas, our inspirations, things we find meaningful and engage in the conversation of the world around us. I joined Facebook when I realized that I was missing out on what you have to say and in my ability to do something meaningful to me—create an impact.
Some context about my quirks:
I get bored to tears talking about myself. I have no interest in being in the spotlight…none. I know what happens in my life; so the idea of getting online and talking about myself sounds redundant, and not productive. I’ll doubt I’ll ever be much of an entertainer, but I’m learning that for whatever reason, what I do is interesting to others in more than an entertaining way. There’s something I’m doing that’s resonating deeply with people, and like I mentioned in my last post, one particular Life Coaching client helped me see what I was missing out on. It was a simple sentence from a longer testimony (I’ll post the full version at the end).
One of the Best Things Anyone Has Ever Said About Me
She said: “Christian isn't just a game changer, he's a life changer!”
Sheesh, if I can do that for people, and Facebook is the most powerful platforms for connecting with other humans, then I need to get over myself and see what kind of difference I can make.
One of my favorite quotes by Marianne Williamson
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. … We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
So no more ‘shrinking’, I will show up. Cool or not, I’ll promise to be genuine. I look forward to engaging with you online and witnessing the gifts you bring to the world as I show up and bring mine…and posting the occasional photo of my adorable children, because let’s face it, they are the coolest thing I've got going.
See you online!
Oh, and here’s the rest of Linda’s testimony
After several years of trying to become "better," I finally decided to get professional coaching to help me achieve the goals I've been struggling with. Prior to my one-on-one life coaching with Christian, he gave me a guide on the entire process of goal setting and achieving life-long change; I followed the guide and tried to develop this plan on my own and ran into several roadblocks, mainly questions of uncertainty such as, "Am I doing this right?" which I saved for when we talked.
During my first session, we went through my plan and he answered all of my questions (sometimes with questions) that clarified what I needed to make sense of it all, solidify my plan, and make the necessary decisions to move forward. If you have ever tried and failed to improve an aspect of your life, or your entire life, I highly recommend life coaching with Christian. He even helped me with non-health goal setting!!! It is absolutely worthwhile and I will continue my sessions with Christian well into 2017.