You Overestimate Your Capacity
This one is a little personal for me. I probably do this more than anyone I know. That must have been why this was an easy post to write!
We humans have this wonderful trait of projecting the best image of ourselves onto our future choices. While this is an awesome trait (one I think is our inner potential calling us to greatness), there is also the fact that our best intentions will eventually run smack into realities we could never have know about or planned for. That can be frustrating, but once you learn to account for things taking longer than expected, it starts to make the change process more manageable and much less discouraging.
So what are some of the biggest capacity blind spots I’ve observed over the years? Here are four of them:
1. You overestimate what you can accomplish in a day. Unless it’s the day before vacation, you’re probably not working at full capacity. Yet, most people plan their lives as if they will always be as productive as the day before vacation. How to overcome this: Learning the discipline of taking a few moments to map out each day and regularly review written goals, can dramatically change the game for you. One of my best recommendations for how to overcome this blind spot is Darren Hardy’s Insane Productivity course. It’s outstanding, and many of the principles made their way into our Life Coaching service.
2. You underestimate how much time meal preparation actually takes – We’ve observed again and again that most of the time when people decide to “eat better” most of the time they are blindsided by the emotional tedium of planning, shopping, prepping, cooking, eating, cleaning…and repeating a few hours later. How to overcome this: First set aside more time than you think you’ll need. Yes, this will mean you have to say no to some other things while you learn to make healthful eating into a routine. Second, find or hire someone who has this rhythm down and learn from them.
3. You expect to be a success the first time you try something – every expert was once a beginner and yet we often expect to jump into new substantive challenges and avoid taking some lumps along the way. We've observed again and again that when you approach it that way you’re either going to quit early or be disappointed. Once, like a baby learning to walk, you accept some failure along the way, you’ll be well prepared to go through the process of learning the inevitable lessons that come with trying something new.
4. When you strive for a new goal, you expect to have more time for other people than you actually do. So much of living a good life is the ability to invest in meaningful connection with others. Such connections are the relationships we will end up relying on when the goal achieving process start to bog down.
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